I Would Never Allow Me to Lose You Again

Never Say This To A Man Unless You Want To Lose Him

By Carol Allen

Let me tell you lot a deplorable, merely all-too common, story. A customer of mine had met a great new guy. He'd been treating her really well – going out of his fashion to help her with a big business drama with a homo from her past, and even helping her with her taxes.

(Can you say SAINT?)

Things were going and so well, in fact, that he'd even included her in a dinner party with his three best friends and his mother – all within vii weeks!

So, imagine my surprise when she told me they broke up just 3 days later.

What happened? Why did it of a sudden go so wrong? Apparently, she'd become insecure. She really liked this guy. (Who wouldn't?)

Turns out they weren't getting any lonely time together while his female parent was in town, and as soon as she left, he went out with the guys instead of her.  And it REALLY hurt her feelings.

So, when he called her the next day to say hello and told her about his night out with his friends, she got upset.

And she marched straight over to his house and said THE ONE THING you must NEVER say to a human unless you want him to be out of your life FOREVER…

"Y'all run across, when the woman is the leader, she'due south the i fighting for the relationship. She's the one taking the ball down the field – not the man!"

She said, "I retrieve peradventure we should break upward."

Say What You Mean

Now, my client didn't want to break upwardly with this guy; she was trying to get a reaction out of him.

She wanted him to await deeply into her eyes, take her in his artillery, and say, "Darling, whatever do you mean? Don't you lot know that I dear you?!"

But she got a very different reaction.

He asked, "Why?" She went on to explain that he should've spent time with her instead of going out with "the guys."

He took a vanquish, assessed the state of affairs, and said, "I remember you're correct. We should break up."

And that was it.  No more help with taxes.  No more alone time.

Who's In Accuse?

I looked at their charts and checked out their compatibility using a 15-step technique from Republic of india that has been used to suit marriages for generations.  And I instantly saw there were a couple of things going on.

They had smashing connections, which is why things had been going then well.  There was just 1 problem…

My client was THE LEADER in the relationship.

This is one of the most of import things in this technique! I was actually taught that it's considered a "deal billow" – so painful for a woman that it will make her a crazy banshee over time.

Hither's why – when the woman is the leader in a relationship, she's ever set up for the side by side affair with a man earlier he is.

Over time, she starts to feel similar the homo only isn't there for her, or thinking of her, and that she'south more invested in the relationship than he is.

It makes her feel unloved. And then it makes her act out…

Follow The Leader

Now, ironically, when the woman is the leader, she must NEVER say to the man, "I think maybe we should break up."

Why?  Considering what he'll hear is:

– "I'g non happy.

– You lot're not making me happy.

– What would make me happy is if we broke up."

And, wanting to make her happy, he'll shrug his shoulders and say, "Okay."

You run across, when the woman is the leader, she'due south the 1 fighting for the relationship.  She'southward the one taking the brawl down the field – not the man!  He follows HER Atomic number 82.  He doesn't directly the relationship.

So, when she gives the cue that they should break up, he can't contend.  And if he does initially, he won't for long.

At present, I've seen couples be happy with this "role-reversal" state of affairs if they take other extra special connections between them, and if they know what's going on…

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But do yourself a favor – don't ever let your insecurity make you lot say those dreaded words:  "I think mayhap we should break up…" unless y'all mean it! You may be blowing it with the right man for y'all.

(Merely, of course, if you Desire to break up, that's some other story.)

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>> If yous're on the same wavelength – wanting the same things at the same fourth dimension

>> If you share a foundation of friendship – or not >> If he can give plenty to you lot to brand y'all secure

>> If you have plenty chemical science to get the distance

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>> Constant obstacles that get in the way (like other women, financial dramas, even health bug)

>> Misfortunes that seem to endlessly ascend out of the bluish and rip you autonomously

>> An inability to "go on the peace" and stay connected, even though you lot may actually love each other

>> Difficulty hearing each other's bespeak of view, or understanding each other

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